I have only washed my husband’s clothes once – Nigerian woman says as she opens conversation about how stress ages women

A Nigerian woman, Joy Onwubiariri, has revealed that she only washed her husband’s clothes once since their marriage and that’s because she insisted on doing so when he refused.   She disclosed this in a Facebook post on Sunday while sharing her opinion in a conversation about how stress ages women, particularly those juggling careers, motherhood, marriage and house chores.  Joy who dated a man that wanted her to do all the chores in the house, said too much stress can make a woman look older than her age.  “I have only washed my husband’s clothes once and that’s because I offered to. He refused vehemently and said “No baby , your fingers would hurt . I will take it to the laundry” I insisted cos it was just 3 items,” she wrote.  He packs my clothes and his own to the Laundry ,brings them back too. I Dey look at my heap of clothes and I am smiling knowing that he will sort them and take them to the laundry once he comes back from his trip This evening I remembered that my ex fianc in 2015 that would tell me to wash bunch of clothes and duvet while he sits down to watch Tv. Wetin for kee me for that marriage na stress I was a fresh graduate who just finished serving and suitors were coming from left right and center. I chose the Oga cos I felt he ticked my boxes . Visiting him against my dad’s wish turned our to be my biggest blessing I saw first hand who I was going to live with and decided it was a bad idea …He believed in gender roles and would always say his mother had 8 children and did all the work that why should I complain ? I am glad I ran as young as I was then. I knew that a man who didnt consider that a woman should be pampered is a NO. I have done too much domestic work growing up as an ADA and I didnt want to anymore Stress makes one look really old. I also remember when my husband went in search of a cleaner to clean our house weekly so that I can concentrate on my business I thought about it and decided it was not a good idea cos we were newly married then. I thanked him for being so thoughtful and sweet Marriage is team work and if your husband does not like doing his laundry himself or taking it to the laundry people to wash , it will be hard ooo Imagine washing your own , his own. the childrens own. You also cook ,clean and still do business or go to work , come back tired , cook , clean again and still open leg at night. Haaaaaa , odikwa too stressful NB .Please note that this post is not the standard. I am only sharing my own personal experience. Do what works for you as far as you are happy but remember to rest ooooo Women need rest. We dont do well with too much stress .. it disturbs our hormones  The post I have only washed my husband’s clothes once – Nigerian woman says as she opens conversation about how stress ages women appeared first on Linda Ikeji Blog.